Take Time to Make Time!

🚩Aunt Flo has arrived and am convinced she is evil to disturb such a beautiful connection… time to tap into and explore other ways to enjoy one another 👹

💜 Connection Level: We have been together a little over 11 years and married 6 and we have found that in two weeks time, that we are truly perfecting everything about our relationship… who knew this challenge would have such an effect!?!

Sometimes we get in our own way and come up with excuses for not making time for self care or intimate connection. If we know how great it makes us feel, why don’t we allow ourselves that luxury?!? There is never too much of a good thing, at least in this instance!!!

If you find yourself debating on how to carve out time, here are some common scenarios I hear from friends, clients, and regular day to day people alike.

I must first start with this, as I think we fixate on the time of day, so instead of waiting until right before bed, we should not rule out or underestimate that morning sex is the BEST sex. I’ll likely never understand the reasons why the “morning wood” occurs… maybe it has something to do with being relaxed and not starting your mind going with what the day will entail and being all in your… head). Anyway, there is excitement to being awakened in the morning and taken. There is no scurrying within the house or other disturbances. What a great way to start the day; “sex hair” with a little more volume, perma grin from a thrilling morning and reminiscing thoughts throughout the day… that’s a win for sure!!!

How many of us have accumulated so much sick and/or vacation time at work, that it’s just sitting there not being used?!? If you are finding it difficult to make time for one another, why not agree to taking a day or a few hours off for, “not feeling good”, so that you can meet your mate to feel GREAT!!!

If your kids are consistently entering in your bed in the middle of the night, either wait until they settle and move them back to their respective places or you two sneak off and try another location in the house. Feels pretty racy to change up your environment -use the shower, the laundry room, even the kitchen table, just keep it sanitary 😉

When involved with a Wellness Committee at a previous place of employment, I was tasked with coming up with weekly themes to share with the organization. One challenge was to go on a fast for giving up an unhealthy habit for 30 days, (side note: I see a trend with me coming up with monthly challenges, perhaps it’s ingrained in me). So, in addition to the common no fast or junk foods, alcohol, etc. the best one seemed to be unplugging from electronics. My husband and I tried at the time with no electronics after 7:00 p.m. or 3 hours prior to bed. I can still recall how we felt simply days into it and how much more we were connecting. Even though we were watching television together, one of us, mostly me, would be on the phone doing something in addition. Why not practice some boundaries and restraint if you find that any form of mindless electronics is keeping you from unwinding and spending quality time together. Unplug and then get connected!!!

Some find it challenging to get into a groove if you have not been routinely getting your groove on. Perhaps baby steps need to be taken at first. So, start small with hand holding when you are sitting on the couch together, a loving massage at night, a spicy sext during the day and so on. Whatever you two can do to increase the touch and closeness between you is important. Perhaps there is more to work on, so communication is where you need to dig deep with talking through any issues (in and outside of the bedroom). Intimacy can grow to be better given and received once underlying issues are worked through. It’s not only important to be in love with your mate, but you must be in a place where you like them too. Determine what is needed and take the plunge into the next level… every little bit helps to make improvements!!! 💋

Have a scenario you want to work through or feeling stuck? Feel free to share.

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