Round 2 Wrap Up

Good Evening, Ladies!!!

It has been a busy last few days and I just realized I forgot to provide a wrap up to the second round of the Ho 30 Challenge. If you recall at the end of the first round in January, I shared a very deep and personal note, detailing what I felt this challenge did for me in a variety of ways. For this second month wrap up, I decided to share what my husband’s take is on how he has viewed the changes in me, our marriage and surprises that he noticed within himself… Win-Win-WIN!!!

A question was presented to us during this second round and it was the perfect thought-provoking statement to write a little essay to.

“What is the thing that surprises you most about your mate”?!?

From the words of my husband:

“When my wife sprung the idea of having intimacy every day for a month, I was surprised.

I hadn’t ever really been in a relationship that had daily physical passion before. By the time I started dating Regina, I had been hurt and jaded, so her expressions of love and desire were not met or reciprocated well, and over time they diminished. While we were still more active than I had ever been, but her spontaneity and openness at times would ebb and flow. I struggled in feeling passion and as a result was very reserved. This challenge helped awaken that part of me and maybe with time, my confidence and trust in love again grew. I came to realize, this was my second chance I didn’t think I would have, to take advantage of her passion and same for her to receive mine. I think now she knows I’m receptive and looking to provide a spark in her life, and she has been more like the woman I knew when we were dating.

Overall, it seemed like we both wanted more in our relationship, but had been missing each other’s intentions and desires. We immediately reset and devoted our focus to each other, making time and effort for a new lifestyle.

In 2019, we had a really rough year with the miscarriage and this challenge has been what we didn’t know we needed. I’ve seen her flourish in excitement for our marriage and become so much more confident with me. While we still had an active sex life, since having our son, it felt as though she hid herself from me. I did not realize how much she would shy away until this challenge came about and now she welcomes attention like she used to. She’s become even more beautiful with the esteem and security of knowing our new connection.

In coming up with this challenge and starting to develop it, she was smart in focusing on intimacy. The other sex challenges we have come across after starting this journey, seem to focus on the physical, where this allows for nights that sex wasn’t the focus, but continuing to build our relationship remained.

She also became excited in sharing with others the effects this was having for her and our marriage. She enjoys connecting and providing for others in general and this is a wonderful new topic to share. This new creative outlet has really taken up a lot more of her time, from researching topics to coaching individuals both in and outside of this group with those expressing intimacy concerns.

I know she hopes to continue building a like-minded group of people that have benefited from, or been curious about, increased intimacy.

We both look forward to our future together with this new mindset and hope that all interested couples join in and come along for the ride!”💋

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