Round 3 Wrap Up
Total: š 11 | š 5
š Connection Level: This has been a shift in our connecting as compared to months prior, as we found that our relationship had improved, but that there was need to support each other in growth as well. In short, our efforts to connect physically more frequently brought us together, and gave us the desire to further improve by doing some work with a therapist ourselves. We are doing well, and that gave us the foundation to do the hard work in resolving some of the remaining barriers we experienced in our marriage. We came to the realization, that in order to have the marriage we both desired, we need to work through past issues of our own, in order to show up and be better for our relationship as a couple. We are fortunate to have a master at couples therapy, who has provided us insights that have been literally life-changing in just a matter of sessions.
We did not anticipate the ways our 30 day challenges would truly challenge us when we started. But having the ability to trust on a wildly deeper level that we had not before has led to so many positives. Our relationship grows even stronger with increased depth of trust and appreciation.
During this challenging time, there can be an array of feelings from uncertainty, anxiety, depression and more. The emotions can be overwhelming at times, which can cause you to feel alone in the struggle. While it may seem like the natural inclination will be to internalize and retreat within your self, these are the times when we need to outreach and share in this with others. Whether you live with your mate or others in the household, it can be invaluable to share your feelings and express how this time in quarantine is making you feel. Perhaps you may still be working as essential personnel – it is critical to speak about your worries and the thoughts that overrun your mind. If you live by yourself or know someone that does, it is more important to outreach to others and share that that they are not alone.
With so much going on and new information coming out rapidly, it may be exhausting to keep up with everything and, more likely, unhealthy if you are constantly streaming the news and reading articles about not only what is happening within your community, but also across the world. Be certain to take care of yourself during this time, connect with others, and share your story. Perhaps you may find that others feel the same, therefore, reaching out can help you from feeling like you are alone with your worries. There may be some people who you are able to confide in who can simply be a listening ear. Others may take the role of validating your concerns while encouraging you to delegate and set aside the things that are truly out of control for all of us at this time and redirect the energies on what we are able to do in these moments.
For those in relationships, imagine hearing from your mate that they are struggling internally with being unable to provide for the household during this time, because their job is furloughed or their business is currently closed. What about the mate who is an essential worker and feels concerned about bringing home an illness to the family? How much could you learn working from home and observing your mate with their daily routine? Now multiply those demands with the current state of the world… Their contribution is grand as they take on a significant amount of work, so perhaps you can lighten their load and share in the upkeep.
Intimacy can take many forms, and having the willingness to allow yourself to be open and potentially exposed regarding some deep seated issues or even your concerns about the world today, can take a level of closeness similar to asking for new levels of physical closeness. Given how challenging this year has already been, it is vital to have the support of others as we traverse such a trying time. š
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