Hide and Sneak

As we have all spent much more time at home, there has been an unexpected result: having the feeling to use this time effectively. So many memes and messages on social media have encouraged- if not mandated- doing more with the time away from workplaces and activities. This post could be seen as promoting a similar agenda, but foremost, take care of yourselves and each other as we all learn new ways of getting through from one day to the next.

As we each find ourselves being home more, so is everyone else! For some, this could result in many possibilities for connecting, building on momentum in finding new levels of intimacy. However, those with children on extended summer schedules may feel even more pressure having to work from home while also occupying kids simultaneously. Finding ways to connect can be unexpectedly challenging right now.

Here are some ideas we suggest trying out in order to get it in:

– Date night at home, whether that is staying up later to enjoy each other or just finding a shared activity to meaningfully enjoy, making a point to do something outside the routine is especially needed right now.

– Take advantage of your opportunities. Whether that is finding you are awake while the rest of the house is quiet at night or in the morning, or you let the little ones have access to a screen or toy to occupy them for a bit, make sure you do what you can, when life offers a chance.

– Get creative, which might mean a creative hobby that you re-engage in, or getting a new thing to enjoy, or using some old household items in new ways, or finding connections in the routine events or chores of the day. See how hot you can make washing the dishes or folding laundry!

– Encourage the child(ren) to engage in a scavenger hunt or activity that will occupy their time, therefore, allowing you to sneak in some one-on-one fun!

– Never underestimate the value and take advantage of morning sex!!! If you have the ability to awake your mate 15+ minutes before the rest of the household stirs about, it ensures that you get your time in and have the rest of the day to think fondly about the early morning romp.

– Sneak away to another location within the house. Exploring uncharted areas of the house, can lead to a thrilling experience and make you feel like you are young again. Try the laundry room, the shower or even a private place in the backyard after dusk.

– Create some house rules and boundaries. It is likely that your children will need some time of their own to retreat, connect with their friends virtually, and simply unwind from the new schooling. If suggesting a new house rule for everyone to abide by, take advantage of that same timeframe or ability for everyone to say, “Timeout, I need some alone time.”

– If the child(ren) is of age, to know about the “birds and the bees”, then come up with an expression or request a pass to be able to escape away. While the deed does not need to be discussed, we believe that a relationship needs to be nurtured and it can only be beneficial for the child(ren) to see a loving and valued relationship who choose to make their needs for one another a priority. Eventually, they will pick up on what is going on, and say “ewww, gross”, further allowing you to have your time, uninterrupted.

Make the time to get it on!!! 💋

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