As we are sure others have experienced, the past year has brought us a number of challenging moments, along with unexpected successes and a whole new experience of living in the world. Unfortunately, this caused our focus to veer from this site, and focus our attention to other areas in our relationship in need of being nurtured. We have vowed to return to both with the passion and intention that started this site initially.
More than ever, it was important for us to connect on levels beyond physical intimacy. After we recovered from another miscarriage, we entered into marital therapy. Not that we were considering splitting apart, but rather to focus on how we could better join together. With the help of a very skilled therapist, we came away from that experience with a better understanding of ourselves and each other.
The first move into living our Ho30 lifestyle came about organically, but there were underlying communication blocks which led us to realize that difficulty with physical acts can be the first symptom of a larger issue in the relationship. Even small hurts and slights can lead to distance, and a lack of willingness to be close.
So, the takeaway is: this is not necessarily as easy as just being intimate regularly. For the connection we all crave, the relationship has to be healthy and open for growth, and for necessary change, for the highest level of intimacy.
Our journey was a necessary one, to further strengthen our connection, as well as giving insight into how to enter into this mindset when it doesn’t happen organically. It takes effort, just like anything in a relationship that’s healthy, to get the full experience of support and connection we hope everyone reading this can have. We know what it takes, and we know it’s worth it to have that powerful expression of love.
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