Good Evening, Ho’s!!!
One of our fellow members shared this upcoming webinar with me to post to the group. It is for tomorrow morning at 10:00 a.m. MST, so if you have time to register and perhaps have this going in the background during your morning routine, that will be great!!! Here is an excerpt of what to expect during the webinar. I plan to participate and will report back on what I learn. 💋
“The funny thing about love is…
People can only love you as much as you love yourself!
Nothing is more important than liking and loving yourself. The most important opinion of you, is yours. The most important words you hear are the words you say to yourself.
When you know that you are significant – worth love, praise and time – others will know it too.
When you learn to love yourself you have a lifelong romance that never fades, tires or disappoints you, love is always available to you no matter what.”
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The Ho 30 Challenge 
Good day!!!
I participated in the webinar this morning, “How to Bulletproof Yourself from Valentine’s Day Rejection”. I took so much from this discussion, so whether you are seeking a mate, currently in a relationship, or yearning for deeper and more meaningful relationships with friends in general, there are great reminders and tips to be learned. The real love we need in our lives is for ourselves and that will reverberate and attract those that can see and reciprocate.
WEBINAR NOTES:
“Every Pan has a Lid”
First, we must believe that we are deserving of love. Just as with anything else we learn or work on with life, it takes repetition. Create and continue reciting your mantra, write it down, say it out loud and view yourself saying it in the reflection of the mirror.
Know that you are valuable and worth the time and energy to invest in yourself. If you feel you desire the words you most want to hear from someone, what are those “things” you want to hear. If you cannot tell yourself these things, then how can you expect to react when someone else says those very words you yearn for… will it make you cringe, shy away or feel they are not being genuine because you do not feel those statements to be true of you?!? You must first believe and tell yourself these affirmations. How A-mazing will it feel, that the words they share with you, match perfectly with what you have been telling yourself!?!
Be certain that you are loving yourself and others WITHOUT reason and do not feel the need to quantify it. The things you find within yourself that are unique and specific to who you are, will radiate from you and others will see it. Ultimately, you will attract what you are exuding yourself and no one can reject you without your consent.
Sometimes when selecting a mate, we believe that we want someone similar to our parent figure(s), when in actuality, we need someone opposite of their characteristics. If by chance you found yourself always seeking their attention and trying to be good enough for them, is that truly the type of intimate relationship you desire for yourself?!? It is up to us to distinguish between what is best and if we need to align ourselves with or repel against what we have been exposed to. It is up us to do the work and travel back through our lives to find the original coding to that which has lead to the beliefs of ourselves. It is at that time, that we can rewrite what we once believed to be true and open up to the possibilities of what we seek and deserve.
We have grown to, in a sense, create a template of how we want to be and what we expect from relationships. Perhaps, what we once believed to be true, may need to be reassessed and altered if it does not bring you comfort in being your authentic self.
When in a relationship, you should check in and ask, “how do I feel about myself when I am with this person”?!? If you feel in any way that you do not recognize yourself, then reevaluate your situation. Get clear with what you believe to be true about yourself and take action accordingly.
We should create a soundtrack for our lives and find the lyrics that align best with how we feel and what we want for ourselves. If you are finding it difficult to tell yourself all the words you are seeking to hear, then repeat the song in your life’s soundtrack. Determine the #1 hit that you can recite endlessly and allow that to be your mantra. Soon enough, you will have a mate whose beat mixes with yours and you will make beautiful music together!!!
As the saying goes, you have to easily give what you are desiring to receive, whether it be to an intimate partner or someone close to you in your life. For instance, if you are down during the holidays, then give yourself what you are seeking. You may also discover someone in your life and feel compelled to give them something. Say you have a single parent friend, treat them to a meal or buy them a simple memento. Similar to that of the love languages, we often give out what we are hoping to receive in return.
Allow someone to value your love and do not just give it away. Ensure that their actions show that they deserve all that you are. If on the dating scene and exhausted from more of the same, then go back to the good old fashion ways of dating and find yourself in environments and surroundings that will attract what you are seeking. Whether it is a current interest of your own; the arts, the gym, etc., then increase your exposure there. Perhaps you seek someone adventurous and likes the outdoors, then consider taking up golf or a travel group. You can get involved into whatever activity for your own wishes while building confidence and security of yourself and the bonus comes when meeting someone along the way with the same interests.
Do you find that you are stuck in a continued story you keep telling yourself about a past relationship?!? Do know that no one has the power to take from you the very qualities that attracted them to you in the first place. You should never have to try too hard for a person to love and stay in your life. The very next person will find you desirable and prove to you why they want and need you in their life.
Be sure that you are always being your true authentic self. There is nothing worse than being in any type of relationship and feeling like someone does not see or know YOU. Take that as an opportunity to reflect back on yourself and ask, “have I put out there who I truly am”, or did you create a persona of who you thought you needed to be. You will continue to have challenges with finding your best match, if the you, you are presenting is not real and can no longer be maintained.
May we all seek to awaken and address our subconscious. Find ways to love ourselves, as it is the most guaranteed and longest relationship we will have in this lifetime!!!
HOMEWORK:
Discover your #1 music hit for your life that speaks to what you seek and desire for your life and share below the name, lyrics or a video below. 💋
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